Feelings can be wonderful.
Love, success, inspiration, joy, discovery, and on, and on.
Feelings can also seem like enemies.
Mistrust, unhappiness, betrayal, sadness, fear, and on, and on.
Negative feelings can catch you by surprise and leave you feeling overwhelmed. They can seem to be bigger than you are and threaten to overtake you. The good news is that putting them to work for you only requires a bit of understanding, strategy, and resilience. With these tools at your fingertips, you can EASE into your feelings
E.A.S.E. is a short and simple strategy for engaging with your feelings in order to be enriched by them — all of them. It will assist you in better understanding your feelings, and yourself. Practicing this method over time will strengthen your resilience. It’s essential to incorporate all of the steps each time in order to gain the most satisfaction from it.
E Is For Experience
Experience the feeling, let yourself feel it – we tend to swat away or push down negative feelings or we may only give ourselves a brief moment to enjoy the positive ones. Whatever the flavor of the feeling, take an extra moment, or two, and feel it. This can be challenging since emotions pop up when they want to, not necessarily when it’s convenient for you. You may not think that you have time to hang out with your emotions, a significant number of which don’t feel good. Invest in this time knowing that your life is growing richer.
A Is For Accept
Accept and say “Yes!” to the feelings. Open your heart and mind and welcome them. Remember that they’re temporary. You’re not your feelings, and, you’re entitled to experience them. Saying yes to your emotional experiences is essential to receiving the gift that lies within them. All of our emotional experiences are telling us something we weren’t able to hear in other ways. Look your feelings square in the eye and say, “Thank you! I hear you!”
S Is For Synthesize
Synthesize and connect the dots. Emotions are a nonverbal language and they have essential information for us. Shift your perspective to one of a scientist exploring possibilities. Instead of feeling like you’re at the mercy of your emotions, check in with yourself with these types of questions.
- Have I had this feeling before?
- Is it a regular visitor?
- During what situations does it occur?
- If it’s new, what were the circumstances?
- What about the situation reminds me of something I’ve been wanting to address in my own life?
E Is For Express
Express and give voice to what it is that you are feeling. Be sure to follow these 2 important guidelines:
- Avoid using, “I am angry, hurt, happy, frustrated, etc …”
- Instead, use the phrase, “I am feeling angry, hurt, happy, frustrated, etc …”
When you leave out the word ‘feeling’ you’re actually defining yourself as the emotion. Over time, this leads to confusion about the true nature of your feelings. You’re not them. You experience them and they are messengers. Deciphering their messages is essential to integrating and moving forward.
One of the simplest ways to ‘clear the air’ with yourself is to use a journal. Use words, or pictures, like a collage. Over time, you’ll come to know your emotions for the allies they are. When you first begin this practice, remember to be patient with yourself and the various emotions that arise in you. You’re exploring a rich and dynamic landscape. Look for opportunities to be curious about what you discover as you E.A.S.E. into your feelings.
Zette Harbour is an iPEC certified life coach and an award-winning professional storyteller. Her column, Successful Awakenings explores the limitless power of awakening to the brilliant and beautiful story of who you truly are. Sign up for vibrant and vivacious updates at Morphosis Coaching.com and receive your FREE guide, Awaken to Your Native Greatness. Follow Zette at Morphosis Coaching on Facebook. Her column, Successful Awakenings explores the limitless power of awakening to the brilliant and beautiful story of who you truly are. Sign up for vibrant and vivacious updates from Zette at Morphosis Coaching.com and receive your FREE guide, Awaken to Your Native Greatness. Follow Zette at Morphosis Coaching on Facebook.